SAME BEHAVIOUR, SAME OUTCOME? MAYBE IT'S TIME FOR A FRESH PERSPECTIVE...

You know that thing, that thing when we toil and labour and sweat at something but no matter how much we try, we just don't quite succeed no matter how trivial might actually be the thing? It might be a seeming inability to get a promotion, or to make more money, it might be some woeful efforts at paperwork or keeping our bedrooms tidy. It really doesn't matter what it is, it might be a big thing, a small thing, a whatever thing, it's just a thing that no matter what we never seem to do well, despite our genuinely best efforts. And added to that, to compound matters further, we probably know someone who succeeds easily in that very thing with which we have so much trouble with absolute effortless application and a seeming sweeping nonchalance. There will be things too, which we find easy to execute, with a similar effortless aplomb.

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So what can be learnt from this? Could it be that when we struggle with something to such an extent, something that really shouldn't be that hard, eg tidying a room, that this is a sign that our core, subconscious programmes are not programmed in alignment with our conscious intention and volition? Could it be the things that we complete without effort, in our stride, could it be that this category of behaviour happens to coincide with one of our core, subconscious programmes?

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Our core, subconscious programmes were almost certainly not installed with deliberate intention or even conscious thought, it was almost certainly entirely innocent and accident. Between birth and the age of 6/7 ish, development of voluntary movement, reasoning, perception, frontal lobes active in development of emotions, attachments, planning, working memory, and perception takes place. A sense of self is developing and life experiences shape the emotional well being. The benchmark the child has is obviously their closest adult mentors, usually the parents but sometimes surrogates for a number of reasons. These adults aren't (normally) indoctrinating the child, the child is simply learning by observation and reflection. By age 7 (give or take), the child's brain has been fully programmed with the blue prints that it will take into adult life and which will dictate its future behaviour, thereafter if the same environment is maintained, these basic precepts will just become increasingly embedded. The parents/surrogates weren't brainwashing the child deliberately, they were just being themselves...

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After this point, and into adulthood, it is estimated that our conscious minds account for 5% of our behaviour, and the subconscious and its wired blueprints 95%. So when our 5% decides to be creative which is the primary purpose of the conscious mind, and introduce something new into the mix, there is an almost inevitable probability that it will be in direct and unbeatable conflict with those blueprints for life constructed all those years before.If you are struggling with something you consciously and REALLY want to do, you can bet it is a consequence of this conflict. Witness the ensuing disharmony, the unwelcome behaviour that might involve drinking, drugs, eating to excess and all the rest.

Those blueprints drawn up by a child with a child's perspective and a child's eye, were simply drawn up as some guide to life as seen in the then now. Those blueprints are almost certainly not appropriate for all stages of life if any at all, but they were the first and the most perfectly placed in a suggestible mind and without doubt the most entrenched.

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Now all this is not new; it's almost trite it's so well known. The difficulty is the undoing of the original programming, the uninstalling of it so that the conscious adult mind can re-programme in a manner entirely deliberate and mindful. There is a formula, a simple process for a successful re-calibration. The 95% referred above is carried out by the subconscious and naturally, the implementer of the various behaviours is the body. The body performs these actions almost by rote and autopilot so inured and used to the behaviour it has become. So essentially, the body has become the unconscious mind, the elastic band that keeps springing back into shape no matter what order the outnumbered 5% conscious mind issues. The solution is simple. The body, the unconscious mind, has to be brought back under control, it has to be shown it is not really the boss, it has been given licence to act inadvertently and unintentionally but now the boss is back. The unconscious mind is not going to like this, believe me, it is going to resist, it has been in control for so long, it will oppose any and all attempts to depose it. Hence the cup test.

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If you wanted to learn to play the piano, you would not sit down at the instrument and attempt to play some symphony of Mozart or similar. You would at least need to practise the chords first. So too with the unconscious mind, you have to break it in. The cup test. The conditioning. The seven days different cup, the hated one, the abandoned one at the back of the cupboard. No more favourite go to cup, that is conditioning. The cup test is the first step in retaking control, showing the unconscious mind that you are serious. Have you any idea how many people state that they want ENORMOUS change, their job, their partner, their home, themselves, and yet can't even change their cup? What does this tell you? Imagine for a moment, just for a moment. Imagine that instead of being on autopilot for things that you don't want to do and yet are easily done because of the autopilot, imagine being on autopilot for the things you DO want to do, be it making money, loving the right people, or just being happy. You are already on autopilot, now just change its direction... Do the 7 day cup test. Do not use your favourite cup for 7 days. It's not hard. Try it and let's go from there....

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